4 years!

My husband and I have been married for 4 years as of June 6, 2024.
4 years of marriage, 3 kids, 2 dogs and 1 goldfish later and we are loving every second of it!

I went out to dinner with friends a few nights ago and somewhere in the conversation we were talking about how young I was compared to them. Three out of the 5 of these ladies have younger kids as well. They were talking about how when they were 25, they didn’t have kids and could go out whenever they wanted to. It just made me realize how quickly Cody and I had to grow up and rely on each other in ways that we had never had to before.

Even though my husband and I were not extremely young when we got married and had kids, it still felt like we had to grow up or mature faster than many people around us. When we got married Cody was 24 and I was 22. Within 8 months of being married we found out I was pregnant with Kaison. If you read my other blogs, you know that we literally were out partying and hanging out with friends 2 weeks before I had a positive pregnancy test. Then, when Kaison was 8 months old, I found out I was pregnant again. Come to find out we were pregnant with twins! Cody was 27 and I was 25 years old with three kids less than 2 years apart.

We were the first of our close friend groups to have kids. This meant that we would see Instagram posts or Snapchats of our friends having fun on the weekends when we were home dealing with explosive diapers and screaming children. Cody and I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way, I’m just saying this to show that Cody and I didn’t do a lot of the things that many young 20-year-olds do.

Now my friends, sister, and cousins are having babies, and I could not be happier!! Why? Because Cody and I can FINALLY have some of our closest friends and family relate to us in ways that we haven’t been able to relate to before.

Even through the chaos, Cody and I make one hell of a team. These four years have flown by so quickly, and I know the next four are going to go even faster. Right now, I’m going to slow down, take a breath and just focus on how many things Cody and I have been through and accomplished TOGETHER as a team and how far we have come. God knew what he was doing when he put Cody and I together and I thank him every day for that.  

On the day of our wedding, we poured sand into a vase to show that we were coming together as one. The vase had a base of white sand, representing God. Then Cody and I poured our sand in at the same time having it mix. To some this might not mean much, however to us this represents that our God will always be the base of our relationship and that we have come together to share His love with others.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”